The Four Phases of Relationship Breakdown
Duck's model shows that relationship breakdown follows a predictable pattern with four distinct phases. Each phase represents a threshold point where someone's view of the relationship shifts, usually making things worse.
The intrapsychic phase is where it all starts - one person becomes privately unhappy but keeps it to themselves. They're basically having internal arguments, weighing up whether their partner is worth the hassle and focusing on all the annoying things they do. This is the "stewing in silence" stage where they might confide in a close mate.
Next comes the dyadic phase, where the gloves come off and couples start having proper rows about their problems. Both partners are now involved, arguing constantly and working out how much it would cost them (emotionally and practically) to actually split up. This is where most breakups actually happen.
💡 Remember: The actual breakup typically occurs between the dyadic and social phases, not at the very end of the process.



