Understanding Bowlby's Core Concepts
Ever wondered why babies seem naturally programmed to make you want to care for them? Bowlby's theory explains this perfectly through social releasers - those adorable innate behaviours like smiling, cooing, and gripping that automatically trigger our caregiving instincts.
The theory centres on monotropy, which means babies form one special attachment that's more important than all others. According to Bowlby, the more time spent with this primary caregiver, the stronger and more beneficial the bond becomes.
There's also a critical period of about 2 years when attachment formation is most active. Miss this window, and forming secure attachments later becomes much more challenging.
Key Insight: Social releasers aren't random cute behaviours - they're evolutionary survival tools that ensure babies get the care they need.
The internal working model shows how these early relationships shape everything that follows. Your first attachment creates a mental template for all future relationships, affecting how you'll connect with others and even parent your own children someday.