Early Attachment's Lifelong Impact
Your first relationships don't just disappear when you grow up - they create an internal working model that acts like a blueprint for all your future relationships. Think of it as your brain's relationship template that influences how you connect with friends, romantic partners, and eventually your own children.
The evidence is pretty convincing across different life stages. In childhood, securely attached kids tend to have closer friendships, whilst insecure children often struggle socially. Research on bullying found that securely attached children rarely get involved, insecure-avoidant kids often become victims, and insecure-resistant children are more likely to become bullies themselves.
Adult romantic relationships follow similar patterns. Hazan and Shaver's famous newspaper study found that 56% of securely attached adults had long-lasting relationships, whilst insecure types struggled with jealousy, fear of intimacy, or relationship instability. McCarthy's research showed that women who were securely attached as babies had the best adult relationships 20+ years later.
The pattern even continues into parenting styles - Bailey's study demonstrated that mothers' childhood attachment styles predict how their own babies will be attached to them, showing this cycle can repeat across generations.
Reality Check: Just because there's a pattern doesn't mean early attachment directly causes later relationship problems - your basic temperament might be the real culprit.
However, the evidence for continuity isn't watertight. Whilst some studies show clear links between early and later attachment, others found no connection at all when following people from infancy to age 16.