When Breakups Go Public and Duck's Limitations
The social phase is when everyone finds out - mates, family, social media, the lot. Partners start picking sides and seeking support from their networks. Some friends try to fix things, others make it worse, and suddenly there are practical issues like who gets the flat and who keeps the dog.
Finally, the grave-dressing phase is about moving on and creating a story that makes you look good. Everyone spends ages slagging off their ex to anyone who'll listen, making sure people know they were the victim in all this.
However, Duck's model has some serious weaknesses. It's probably too simple - researchers had to add a fifth "resurrection phase" later, and people don't always move through the stages in order. You can jump backwards or get stuck.
The model also doesn't explain why relationships break down, just how. The fatal attraction hypothesis suggests we often break up because of the very things that attracted us initially - like that funny person who never takes anything seriously.
💡 Key Strength: The model is brilliant for relationship counselling because it suggests different repair strategies work better at different phases.