Catrin
Being a parent isn't always about love and joy - sometimes it's about conflict and compromise. Clarke's honest poem explores the complex reality of mother-daughter relationships from birth to independence.
The poem opens with "I can remember you, child" - that personal, conversational tone makes it instantly relatable. The "hot, white room" of the hospital contrasts the sterile environment with the emotional intensity of childbirth, whilst "tight red rope of love" uses metaphor to show how the umbilical cord represents both connection and conflict.
Clarke uses free verse to create a genuine, spontaneous feel, reflecting the messy reality of family relationships. The bipartite structure (two sections) shows the tonal shift from hopeful past to defeated present, highlighting increasing separation as the child grows up.
Key Point: The oxymoron "wild, tender circles" perfectly captures how love and conflict can exist together in family relationships.
The ending with "that old rope/Tightening about my life" shows parenthood as both constricting and connecting. Clarke's message is refreshingly honest: parent-child relationships require compromise, and you can love someone whilst finding them frustrating. It's about finding balance between protection and freedom.